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LATEST NEWS UPDATES | Stay-at-home mothers hit their kids most often: Survey -Shreya Bhandary

Stay-at-home mothers hit their kids most often: Survey -Shreya Bhandary

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published Published on Nov 1, 2012   modified Modified on Nov 1, 2012
-The Times of India

MUMBAI: Reports of children taking extreme steps or running away from home after being disciplined stare at us from newspapers every other day. Yet, in a shocking finding, a study tells us that almost seven out of 10 sets of parents hit their children in Mumbai. Across India, 65% parents admit they are not averse to spanking their kids.

The widespread prevalence of spanking belies attempts to provide children with a more caring environment for growing up. The Supreme Court had banned corporal punishment in schools in 2000 while the Right to Education Act reiterated the ban recently.

Surprisingly, mothers - 77% across India and in Mumbai - were found most liable to raise their hands against children. Housewives came across as the harshest though it is usually believed that they have more time to dedicate to their kids than mothers juggling family life with a job. The survey by a well-known education group in Mumbai was carried out across 10 cities including Mumbai, Pune, Surat, Ahmedabad, Chennai and Bangalore.

"What was shocking was that spanking of children was more evident in the cities than in the rural areas. The survey also shows that in most cases, stay-at-home mothers end up resorting to physical punishment for their children," said Swati Popat Vats, director of Podar Jumbo Kids.

It was also noticed that 84% of the 4,022 parents who were part of the survey were not in agreement on any kind of physical punishment but felt helpless most of the times. Parents said one of the main reasons why they hit their child was when the child irritated them and they lost their cool. "In most of the responding households, the fathers were working full time and their absence from home left the mothers to take the responsibility of disciplining the children. It often led to spanking to gain control," added Vats.

In an endorsement of having sufficient gaps between children, the survey by the Podar Institute of Education found that larger the age difference between siblings, lesser was the beating and vive versa.

School principals across the city told TOI that they often end up counselling parents on how to discipline their children. "So many parents have ended up thrashing their children in front of my eyes and we had to intervene," said Lalitha Hariharan, principal of Rizvi Springfield School, Bandra (W). "Parents are always frustrated but they need to find alternative ways of disciplining their children. Hitting children does not put across the point. Instead, children end up rebelling against their parents."

Parents' associations in the city too are worried about the rising trend. "Everybody loses their cool and often parents come to us and ask help in counselling their children when, in fact, they need counselling too," said Lata Nair, vice-president of PTA United Forum.

Mumbai: There have been discussions of teachers unable to control children without resorting to various forms of physical punishment for discipline management, a recent survey conducted by a popular school in Mumbai reveals that parents themselves are not averse to hitting their kids. According to a survey conducted by Podar Institute of Education, out of the 4,022 parents who were questioned across the country, 65% parents agreed that they hit their children, why 68% parents in Mumbai agreed to doing so.

"What was shocking in this survey was that this trend of spanking children was more evident in the urban cities while parents in the rural areas more sensitive towards their children. The survey also shows that in most cases, stay-at-home mothers end up resorting to physical punishment for their children," said Swati Popat Vats, director of Podar Jumbo Kids. This survey was conducted over 15 cities across the country including Mumbai, Pune, Surat, Ahmedabad, Chennai and Bangalore.

Of the total parents surveyed, 68% mothers, who were housewives, agreed to spanking their children. "The fact that in most households, the fathers were working full time and their absence from home left mothers to take the responsibility of disciplining the children and thus, spanking them to gain control," added Vats. It was also noticed that 84% of the parents were not in agreement of any kind of physical punishment but felt helpless most times. Parents mentioned that one of the main reasons why they hit their child was when the child irritated them and they lost their cool.

School principals across the city told TOI that more than students, they end up counselling parents on how to discipline their children. "So many parents have ended up thrashing their children in front of my eyes and we had to intervene. Parents also come and tell us that the only way to discipline kids is by spanking them and we end up counselling them to stop this habit," said Lalitha Hariharan, principal of Rizvi Springfield School, Bandra (W). "Parents are always frustrated but they need to find alternative ways of disciplining their children. Hitting children does not put across the point, instead, children end up rebelling against their parents then," she added. Principals also added that other than parents, children are regularly spanked by tuition teachers too. "Children have walked into our school with bruises and lied about the cause of the bruises. After counselling them we realised that while in most cases parents have raised their hands, even tuition teachers physically punish children. We end up calling the parents for counselling then," said Rekha Shahani, principal of Kamla High School in Khar (W).

Parents' associations in the city too have regularly experienced such problems and are worried about the rising trend. "Everybody loses their cool and many times parents come to us personally and ask help in counselling their children when in fact they need counselling too. This issue needs to be solved at the roots and parents as well teachers need to understand that there are various ways of disciplining children and spanking is not one of them," said Lata Nair, vice-president of PTA United Forum.

The Times of India, 1 November, 2012, http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Stay-at-home-mothers-hit-their-kids-most-often-Survey/articleshow/17040059.cms


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